Ten Men

Engaging Men as Allies

Ten Men is made up of local men from diverse walks of life who share a common vision—a world without domestic violence.

How to Help – For more information or to find out how you can get involved, contact Devon Pinkus, men’s engagement coordinator, at devon@ricadv.org.

Calling men in

Every day, men in our community can help build safe, healthy spaces where everyone can thrive. Each June, we call men statewide to learn how they can show up for all people – including women and trans and gender non-conforming people – in positive, affirming ways, and by doing so, how men can help prevent violence.

By modeling respectful relationships and being a voice for equality, men can help change the culture that allows domestic abuse and other forms of violence.

Devon Pinkus, Men’s Engagement Coordinator

Devon manages prevention goals and activities related to men’s engagement, including Ten Men, a statewide prevention initiative funded by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). 

Meet the 2021 Ten Men Cohort

Marco Carrasco
Leonardo Cepeda
Andre Davis
Terrence Green
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Alex Kithes
Scott Lapham
Adam Tussing
Ian Wiggins

Past Ten Men Cohort Participants

  • Lee Clasper-Torch served as the Men’s Engagement Coordinator at the RICADV 2015 to 2020.
  • Jon Berenson
  • Adam Cable
  • Elwood Donnelly
  • Dave Joseph, MSW
  • Sam Kirsch
  • Don Laliberte
  • Elliot Rivera
  • Anthony Sinapi
  • Christian Andrade
  • Jim Berson
  • Jeff Cronin
  • Kevin Lohela
  • Andrew Mullen
  • Enrique Newman
  • Thomas Terceira
  • Gregory Thompson
  • Johnson Thomas
  • Erroll Lomba
  • Kyle Bennett
  • Ben Ellcome
  • Ralph Breslauer
  • Julio Alicea, M.A.T.
  • Victor Arias
  • Michael Burt
  • Terry Cannon
  • Antonio Da Veiga Rocha
  • Anthony Faccenda
  • Marshall Lancey
  • Noah Pushor
  • Jason Rodrigues
  • Travis Rymer
  • Jonathan Sigman
  • John Wesley
  • Omar Bah
  • Len Cabral
  • Ian Colomer
  • Derek Grinkin
  • Rick Harkins
  • James Kwon
  • Erlin Rogel, J.D.
  • Peter Simon, M.D.
  • Rich Tarlaian
  • Larry Warner, M.P.H.
  • Taylor Britto
  • Peter Converse
  • Marty Cooper
  • Carson Moore
  • Marlon Ramdehal
  • Nelson Rocha
  • Rilwan Feyisitan, Jr.
  • Jay Gotra
  • John Youte
  • Rafael Zapata
  • Rev. Dr. Donnie Anderson
  1. Approach violence against women as an issue that involves men of all ages and all socioeconomic, racial, and ethnic backgrounds. View men not as violent perpetrators but as empowered bystanders who can confront abusive peers.
  2. If a friend, relative, classmate, or teammate is abusing his female partner, or is disrespectful or abusive toward girls and women in general, don’t look the other way. If you feel comfortable doing so, try talking to him about it. Urge him to seek help. Consult a friend, parent, teacher, or counselor for help. Don’t remain silent.
  3. Have the courage to look inward. Question your own attitudes. Don’t be defensive when something you do or say ends up hurting someone else. Try hard to understand how your own attitudes and actions might perpetuate sexism and violence; then work toward changing them.
  4. If you suspect that a woman close to you is being abused, ask if you can help.
  5. If you are emotionally, psychologically, physically, or sexually abusive to women, or have been in the past, seek professional help.
  6. Be an ally to women who are working to end gender-based violence. Support the work of college and community women’s centers. Attend related events. Help raise funds for victim services.
  7. Recognize and speak out against homophobia and gay-bashing. Discrimination and violence against those who identify as LGBTQ is wrong, and this abuse has direct links to sexism and violence against women.
  8. Attend programs, take courses, watch films, and read articles and books about multicultural masculinities, gender inequality, and the root causes of gender violence. Educate yourself and others about how larger social forces affect the conflicts between individual men and women.
  9. Don’t fund sexism. Refuse to purchase any magazine, rent any video, subscribe to any website, or buy any music that portrays girls or women in a sexually degrading or abusive manner. Protest sexism in the media.
  10. Mentor and teach young boys about how to be men in ways that don’t involve degrading or abusing girls and women. Volunteer to work with gender violence prevention programs, including anti-sexist men’s programs. Lead by example.

(Adapted from a resource by Jackson Katz, one of America’s leading anti-sexist male activists and co-founder of Mentors In Violence Prevention (MVP).)

Click here for a printable infographic created by the RICADV.

Helpline Available 24/7

The confidential statewide Helpline can be reached by calling 1-800-494-8100 or using the online chat here. The Helpline is for all victims of violent crime, including domestic and dating abuse, and those looking for more information to help a victim of violence.

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